During the holidays, many families are full of excitement and expectation. But for an elderly family member, the holidays might be a time of sadness and remembering when they were at a more enjoyable place in their life. While younger people are busy running around getting gifts, making food, and putting up the decorations, your elder might not even be aware that the holidays are here, or feel a part of the celebration.

It’s especially important to make them feel like they’re a vital part of the events. A little extra attention and consideration can go a long way to help make the holiday season an enjoyable experience.

Involve aging family members in as much of the preparation as possible. This includes wrapping presents, chopping the nuts, or beating the eggs. To make them feel even more a part of the festivities, you could create special jobs, like being the guest of honor who lights the candles or recites a special prayer if that occurs in your family. Many elderly like to sing holiday songs which are a part of their long term memory. Whatever you plan, it has to be something that makes your elder feel present and in the middle of things in a genuine way.

Consider these additional ideas:

* Once at the get-together, assign different family members to sit near your elder for one-to-one conversation and companionship. This role needs to rotate every hour if possible.

* Be sure to have the correct foods prepared if they have any specific dietary or medical needs.

* Make sure there is a comfortable environment for them to take a nap, if need be.

* Be ready to help them to the bathroom. Take away the embarrassment. Make sure someone stays with them to help with orientation to the various rooms of the home.

* Manage their clothing, too. Keep a sweater handy if they get cold, and help them take it on and off. If they have to wear a bib when they eat, make sure it’s a stylish, functional one.

* Pull out old family photos that include good times when your loved one was younger. It’s fun for them to remember a fishing trip, a birthday party, Thanksgivings past, or other family events. It reminds them that they made a powerful contribution to the family. Give them time to tell their stories, even if you’ve heard them before.

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